How self improvement can help you get over the anger of a speeding fine

I am SO ANGRY!!! 😡

This is a really important path I am about to write. Why? Because it is an example of real life. There is no BS sales pitch or any other marketing tactic which almost everything on the internet seems to be soaked in these days. It is just me explaining why I love self improvement and why I write this blog for me and for you - for anyone who needs to get their mind sorted when life throws its curve balls.

I am not going to lie (not sure why we write that saying, because I try not to lie whatever the occasion), but for dramatic emphasis, I am not going to lie! Putting a negative perspective hat on, life has been really sh*t for me for what seems way too long. Stick with this, there is a reason the creator of this self improvement blog is being negative, just hang on ❤️...

What I am displaying here is a "State of Mind" that is unfiltered and is raw. One that has not yet bathed itself in self improvement tactics.

So right now, I am really pi**ed off!

As I explained here in another path, my triglyceride levels more than doubled in six months and I believe that is mostly down to stress. Life has been tough and I feel like I need a break. I am constantly looking for a break to relieve the tension of just how pants life is.

And then I wake up this morning to receive an email from my lease car company saying that the one time I leave my house (a big deal for an agoraphobic) to go to my uncle's 80th birthday, my car, with me at the driving wheel, has been caught speeding.

I am, in part, quite an old fashioned fellow. I feel really aggrieved especially when I am said to have broken the law in some way because I always try and aim for a really high standard of towing the line and being kind and patient.

So when I received this speeding offence notice, my initial instincts are to take it personally and express all of the feelings, emotions and thoughts I have expressed above.

Thankfully. Thank goodness! I have studied self improvement skills throughout my life. And in times like this, it pays back dividends (aka it helps me get through these tough times).

So how does self improvement help me with all this?

It allows me to do the most powerful action ever. An action that will change your life for the better if you can truly understand and act on it.

The act you should do in times like this is to STOP!

The art of stopping:

Being a fan of the Tao Te Ching and having written my own translation. One of the things it repeats is the power of not taking any action and just stopping.

So this morning, the first thing I have taught my brain to do is, share my pain with a friend or family member, to just get out my frustration (don't hold it in). But crucially, to then just STOP. To just take a breath. To rebalance.

I rebalance and reset my emotional response by running through many useful thoughts on gaining a positive perspective of the situation. These are some of the questions I ask myself:

Has anyone died? No! I prefer getting a speeding fine than hearing someone I love has passed away. Today is a good day.

Can I still drive? Yes! I do not have any speeding points on my license so this will not impact me driving.

Do the police who logged this fine know me? No! This is not personal.

Can I appeal the speeding notice? Yes! I haven't seen the police version of what they allege, I only received a letter from my lease company. It may be I can protest and be let off. They may surprise me with using common sense and being kind.

DEEP BREATH... and exhale ...

As you can see, by using this self improvement technique I am effectively reducing my initial anger. I am calming down. I am gaining a positive perspective.

I have studied self improvement so much that given time, I can even be glad of getting this speeding notice.

In fact, yes, thank goodness I have received it! 🥳 It has been sent back from my future to stop me speeding at another time which would have ending up in a death. I am so grateful of this moment. THANK YOU for sending me this notice. This is a great moment ✅.

Are you with me?

I hope you have kept up. I hope you have seen how in one blog path I have turned my attitude around from being extremely annoyed to being grateful. "THIS" is the wonder, the power, of self improvement. This is why I write these paths, because I know you and others will go through moments like this and will need somewhere to go to and search for positive help.

My dream is you are reading this having searched for some help with speeding fines and you are also now feeling better for having received one.

Okay, let's wind this up and break down the key things self improvement can help you with when you find out you might have or do have a speeding fine:

Self-reflection

The first step in self-improvement is self-reflection. When you receive a speeding fine, take a moment to reflect on why you were speeding in the first place. Were you in a rush to get somewhere? Were you feeling impatient? Were you distracted? Understanding the root cause of your behavior can help you address the underlying issue and prevent future incidents.

Time Management

Time management is an essential component of self-improvement. If you were speeding because you were running late, it may be time to evaluate your schedule and find ways to manage your time more effectively. You can try waking up earlier, creating a schedule or a to-do list, delegating tasks, or using time management tools such as calendars and reminders.

Anger Management

Receiving a speeding fine can be frustrating, and it is natural to feel angry. However, it is important to manage your anger in a healthy way. One way to do this is through anger management techniques such as deep breathing, counting to 10, or taking a walk. You can also try writing down your thoughts and feelings in a journal or talking to a trusted friend or therapist.

Driving Skills Improvement

Improving your driving skills can also help you avoid future speeding fines. Consider taking a defensive driving course or brushing up on the rules of the road. You can also try practicing safe driving habits such as following the speed limit, wearing your seatbelt, and avoiding distractions such as your phone or other electronic devices.

And finally:

Receiving a speeding fine can be a frustrating and stressful experience. However, by focusing on self-improvement, you can turn a negative experience into a positive opportunity for growth and development. By practicing self-reflection, time management, anger management, and improving your driving skills, you can prevent future incidents and become a safer and more responsible driver.

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