What if I told you that the inadvertent objective of life was to hurt you constantly

I had a profound thought today 😲

These thoughts often happen to me in the shower. Weird but true. If you know of any link, to do with water hitting your body, and ideas forming in your head, then let me (us all) know down in the comments.

Anyhow, this was my profound thought:

What if I told you that the inadvertent objective of life was to hurt you constantly?

Before you say this does not sound like a happy self improvement path, please let me explain.

Depending on what type of life you have been born into and have lived, generally, after the age of 40, people get hit with an invisible wisdom stick.

It is a bit like when a pinata gets struck and candy starts appearing as each part of it's deteriorating body breaks down.



Yes, after 40 (arguably 30 but mentally I would say 40 is when it hits hard) your body and mind break down like the pinata, but instead of candy, if you squint and go along with this terrible analogy, you tend to find that little bits of wisdom fall out in eureka moments.

And yes, the thought, "that the inadvertent objective of life is to hurt you constantly", is one of those bits of candy that popped into my mind this morning.

I digress - the point please Christian Jacques Bennett!

The point is that after 40 years of age you are able to reflect on life. You have had more life experience to page through and pull out some lessons learnt. Lessons that improve your life.

If you have read my Hello page, you will know that I am obsessed with self improvement and how we can all get the most out of our short lives, and specifically how we can be happy in the moment. Or at least get the best out of a moment, even a painful one.

This obsession means that every day I try and think up ways to help others, like you, rethink and get your mind kick started onto a new path that makes you heal and thrive in all that you do.

With this all in mind, the pinata candy 🍬 I want to give to you, to taste, today, is this...

If you 100% believe the thought that the inadvertent objective of life is to hurt you constantly then how does your new found belief help you change and improve the way you tackle each moment?

If you really understand that when you are faced with life's downs, such as someone saying:

- they do not love you anymore and they want to separate,

- you are not right for the job and they want the other person,

- you are too tall, too fat, too ugly, too beautiful, too short, too whatever and they laugh at you,

- you have lost a loved one in an accident and they will never return home alive,

- you are looking old and will never look young again,

- you are ill and may not live as well as before...

If you really understand that all of the former things mentioned, and all of the other painful and tough things not mentioned, are actually nothing personal, your mastery of how to get the best out of life will be complete.

You will know that hurt is generally not a personal attack on your happiness.

No. It really isn't.

Once you truly understand that they are actually just moments that life was always going to bring you, naturally without motive, you will tackle hurt more constructively.

Let me dwell a bit more on why life sending hurt your way is not personal. It is because the moment you were born - that very moment you burst into life - that was the moment when it was too late to stop the explosive energy that was your life to come. The pain and happiness to come. All this was inevitable. Unfortunately toddler's group only tells you to expect fairy stories with happy endings.

But don't worry about that because now you do know, life's about to make so much more sense and make you feel more at peace and armed with an ability to appreciate all the joy that does come your way! In every moment, even the sad ones.

And the wonderful thing is you are born again in every moment! You are given a second chance in every moment!

You are naturally therefore subject to what happens to all living beings that are born.

You are susceptible instantly to the opposite of life, or else you would not be alive! Yes, that's right, you are susceptible to death. You are susceptible to pain. As a result of being alive.

This logic is so obvious and once you truly understand this point about life it will stop you from wallowing in pain.

Yes, of course, you will experience pain.

Yes, of course, it will hurt.

Feeling hurt is a normal human, healthy, reaction when something painful is thrown at you.

But for those who realise that hurt is not personal. That it is a natural part of living.

For those who know hurt was always going to happen to them - because - let's face it - death is a certainty many are too scared to mention!

For those who realise that life was always going to give them hurtful moments, those people will break free from taking any painful event personally. They will break free from wallowing in pain for too long than is necessary.

WHY? WHY? WHY?

Because why wouldn't you want to break free from hurt? Why would you want to wallow in pain for longer than is necessary? Especially now you know that life is always going to bring you some, it's natural not personal, hence you have to accept it and deal with it quickly to then move on to happier times faster.

Self pity is a very addictive magic that we are all subject to.

It is easy when someone leaves you for another person to feel self pity.

It is easy to wallow for far too long. It is easy to believe that, in some weird voodoo magic type ideology, you can keep the negative voice in your head alive. You know which voice. The one that says, "HEY, KEEP FEELING LOW, KEEP FEELING PAIN. BECAUSE THE MORE YOU CAN STAY FEELING THIS WAY, THE MORE YOU CAN GET OTHER PEOPLE NOTICING JUST HOW IN PAIN YOU ARE AND .... WELL 🤥 .... BY WALLOWING IN PAIN YOU WILL TRIGGER SOME KIND OF VOODOO MAGIC WHEREBY THE UNIVERSE - OR THOSE PEOPLE INVOLVED IN YOUR PAIN - ARE GOING TO MAGICALLY MAKE EVERYTHING FEEL WONDERFUL AGAIN...".

But we know THAT voodoo magic thinking is NOT TRUE! Don't we? Don't you?

You know that wallowing will not actually change anything. All wallowing does is make you feel rubbish in the short life span you have to live.

RISE UP AND LIVE:

So now you know that life is always going to send you hurt, you can move forward being grateful for every moment that there is no hurt. Because as sure as night follows day, on the other side of hurt is always happiness.

Yes, that's it. You are getting it. It is all part of the circle of living. Can you hear the music?



Still have some doubts about all this? Okay. Imagine if day did not follow night, because everything just went still. It would be crazy right? There would be no natural changing of seasons. Life would be.. well what would it be? But it would be worse than day following night and vice versa, right?

So, do not stop your life by wallowing in hurt for too long. Learn to move into the next moment and enjoy the change.

Take the lessons that hurt gives you (and boy does it give them) and use them to feel happier in the next moment you have to live. Great news is the next moment is always... here now... oh here is another one, and another... you get the idea!

Heck, I am feeling incredibly excited for you right now. You have a chance (as we each do), to keep moving into a new moment with this profound knowledge.

Before I go, let me give you a final test:

What are you going to do the next time life throws hurt your way?

Very good. You get a distinction! 🏆

That's correct. You deal with the hurt you face, you let your emotions happen naturally, but without wallowing you know to quickly move into the next moment with happiness leading the way. For bonus marks, you know life is for living and hurt is purely for reminding you to LIVE!

Good bless you ❤️. Take care today, you amazing person you. I feel bad leaving you, but see you in the next path?

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Christian Jacques Bennett

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