Mastering Serenity: How to Calm Your Mind Before an Interview
I have an interview tomorrow to undertake a new contract.Interviews and I have a long standing relationship 💔-💓.
It is a relationship that has changed completely over the years.
Early interviews made me incredibly fearful and nervous. Those negative thoughts would swoosh in and start stinging me with the "be"s.
🐝 You are going to "BE" rubbish at answering the questions!
🐝 You will "BE" ill in front of the interviewers and they will laugh at you!
🐝 You cannot "BE" happy in this job!
And yes, I know bees are spelt with a double "ee" 😆!
You get my point. You know what I mean, don't you?
You've been there. That period before the interview when your mind throws doubt your way. For each person that doubt may appear differently but there is some doubt. Even if it is, how do I get to the interview room to start with.
Time and experience changes you for the better...
Thankfully my relationship with interviews has become a lot healthier.
And you can gain all of this experience right now so you don't have to wait a huge amount of time.
Nowadays I see interviews as my chance to do something like a TED talk. It is an opportunity to showcase myself. And if 🐝 I don't! Then I believe the interview was just a life test which will lead me to bigger and better things.
The negative thoughts still try to hover in the background, and occassionally they might even try to sting me. Thankfully, I am now immune. Those "Be"s 🐝🐝🐝 tickle me and don't sting. I use them to pollinate me into a great state of mind to do and feel the exact opposite of what they are buzzing about.
It all starts from the moment you find out you have got an interview.
Many people start joking with others, "I will be nervous, I can never answer the questions the interviewers throw at me, I am no good at presentations...", STOP!
It starts immediately with you forcefully saying that you are not nervous. You are amazing. You can cope with anything. An interview is nothing.
Many people reading this are parents. If not they are the children of their parents. In either case all of you have survived either raising a child and or growing into a man, woman or whatever you are ❤️. Compared to that an interview is nothing!
Mindset is everything. Fake it until you make it, even if you feel your nerves tingling.
And if you feel your nerves tingling, do not say you are anxious! Say you are excited!! This is FUN! You cannot wait for the experience.
Rethink everything...
Interviews are not a place where a person or panel of people interview you. They are place where you get to tell others how incredible you are and most importantly, they are place where YOU get to interview the interviewers.
Yes that is right. We are talking about your life. Taking on a new job has a big impact on your life.
After you have show cased yourself, ensure that you have questions lined up for the interviewer. What can they do for you? What does the company offer that is worth you giving it your precious time.
Don't be rude or cocky. Be professional when you interview them. And obviously do not say you are interviewing them! Just say at the end of their questions that you have some for them too. Know what you want the job to provide you. Will it be the right pay, are there future pay upgrades?
Time to get you to feel calm...
I know embarking on an interview can often feel like stepping onto a stage with the spotlight glaring. Nervousness, anxiety (excitement!), and racing thoughts can cloud 😶🌫️ your mind, potentially affecting your performance. But please fear not! With the right techniques I am about to share, you can calm your brain and cultivate a sense of tranquility before facing that interview panel.Okay, are you ready? Let's explore effective strategies to quiet your mind and present your best self during this critical moment.
1. Mindful Breathing: Your Anchor to Calmness
Start by finding a quiet space where you won't be disturbed. Close your eyes and take a few deep, slow breaths. Focus your attention on your breath as you inhale and exhale. As thoughts arise, gently bring your focus back to your breath. This simple mindfulness exercise can anchor your mind, helping you stay present and easing feelings of restlessness. And don't forget the Vagus Nerve!
2. Visualize Success
Take a moment to vividly imagine yourself succeeding in the interview. Visualize the interview room, see yourself confidently answering questions, and feel a sense of accomplishment as you leave the room. Positive visualization not only helps reduce anxiety but also primes your mind for success, reinforcing a positive self-image.
3. Progressive Muscle Relaxation
Sit comfortably and begin to tense and release different muscle groups in your body, starting from your toes and working your way up to your head. Tense each muscle group for a few seconds, then release. This technique can help release physical tension and send a signal to your brain that it's time to relax.
4. Grounding Techniques
Engage your senses to bring yourself back to the present moment. Notice the sensation of your feet on the ground, the temperature of the air around you, and any sounds you can hear. This technique helps shift your focus away from anxious thoughts and into the reality of the present.
5. Powerful Affirmations
Craft a set of positive affirmations related to your interview, such as "I am prepared and capable," "I am confident in my abilities," or "I am excited to showcase my skills." Repeat these affirmations to yourself, fostering a sense of self-assurance and positivity.
6. Physical Activity
Engage in light physical activity before the interview, whether it's a short walk, gentle stretches, or even a quick dance session. Exercise releases endorphins, which are natural mood boosters that can help alleviate anxiety and stress.
7. Prepare Thoroughly
One of the most effective ways to calm your mind is to be well-prepared. Research the company, practice common interview questions, and rehearse your responses. The more prepared you are, the more confident you'll feel, reducing the likelihood of anxious thoughts taking over.
8. Give Yourself Time
Arrive at the interview location with some extra time to spare. Rushing can elevate stress levels. Use this time to review your notes, do some deep breathing, or simply sit quietly and gather your thoughts.
9. Stay Hydrated and Nourished
Dehydration and hunger can contribute to feelings of anxiety. Drink water and have a light, balanced meal before the interview. Avoid excessive caffeine, as it can exacerbate nervousness.
Good Luck!
Calmness is a superpower when it comes to interviews. By implementing these techniques, you're equipping yourself with tools to tame your racing thoughts and embrace a state of serenity. Remember, it's natural to feel a bit nervous, but with practice and the right strategies, you can master the art of calming your mind and presenting your true potential during interviews. Your confidence and authenticity will shine through, leaving a lasting positive impression on your interviewers. So good luck, I know you are going to come out of this a stronger person and you feel that, don't you, right now...IMAGE
Christian Jacques Bennett
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